I'm Done...

I did not want to share this information with you all until things were final, and now they are, so here it is. Bill and I divorced after 13 1/2 years of marriage. The last 3 years have been so tumultuous, and I'm surprised that I survived without meds or being committed somewhere. I loved him with every part of my being when we got married, but the person he is now is not the man I married. I won't go into details but my close friends and family know what I've been through and have been super supportive.  There were no drugs, alcohol or infidelity but enough emotional abuse that all I can say is that I'm done....

Where I work we have daily prayers that are read over the PA system and in email, and several of them have resonated with me during this time. One talked about loving people as they are, the way God made them, without trying to make them into something that you want.  The other was this:

You never know what it takes someone to come to work. We may never know the inner struggles others are facing, but we can choose to love them anyway. We can choose to offer them grace and understanding. Be gentle. Express love. Practice patience. Your grace may be the only grace someone is experiencing in their life.

So, I'm on with my life as a single person.  Don't feel sorry for me, just be happy that I escaped before it was too late and I have some self esteem left. I have great friends and a job that I like and I'm good at, and family support beyond measure so I'll be okay. I can do this... after all, I am a Redfield girl!